"When I think of children's gifts, I think of the actual existential challenges 

with which all children present their parents - because they are who they are. 

Children force us to consider our own destructive patterns; they take us beyond

the limit of pain and make us think about wether we are suitable to be parents inthe first place, they expose our shallow,pedagogical attempts at manipulation andinsist on our personal presence; they offend us by rejecting our good advice and guidance; they proudly and matter-of-factly assert their right to be different; 

they act in destructive ways that force us to confront the fact that we have 

slipped up.

To put it briefly: their unique competence makes such a great impression on us 

that we either have to acknowledge it or lie to ourselves." 

Jesper Juul_familylab.international